We have become a culture of professionals. When we need our tax returns filled out we gather up all our receipts and take them to a tax professional, when we don’t feel good we go to a medical professional, if we need a plumber, and electrician, or a roofer we hire a professional, when we need the oil changed in our cars, we take it to a professional. I got my first car in 1973 and from then until 2003 nobody ever changed the oil in one of my vehicles except me, but something happened in 2003. I bought a new car, and as I was doing the paperwork, the salesman brought me a laminated card, and said bring this back with you every 3000 mile and we’ll change your oil for free for as long as you own this car, ever since, most of the time I take my car or truck and have the oil changed. It was just easier even when I got rid of that car and had to pay for it myself, maybe I just got lazy? Sometimes we may use a professional but we still need to have a good idea of what is going on, suppose our tax preparer makes a mistake on our tax returns? Who is the IRS go to be coming to see? I had something like this happen to me about 8 years ago, my accountant gave me some tax advice and I trusted him, but when I had him do my taxes for that year, I ended up owing $10,000 when we asked him about it he just said he was sorry but that happens sometimes, he had been charging $200 to do my taxes in previous years, but this year he charged me $350. Needless to say he didn’t do my taxes again. But I got over that, yeah it cost me some money, I was mad at the guy for a while, but I survived and I got over it.
Unfortunately I believe that too often we bring this culture of professionals in to the church.
Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (ESV) “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
In 2009 by Ken Ham wrote the book Already Gone he reveals some very disturbing statistics. Research by George Barna a well-known Christian Pollster found young adults who were active members of conservative evangelical churches in America during their childhood and youth years (These are the kids in our Sunday school classes, youth groups, and here with their parents every Sunday) that 61% of these kids will completely leave the church by the end of their freshman year of college.
Why does this happen? Ken Ham and others say that it is because these kids don’t see the things they learn in their church and youth group lived out at home. They are not a priority in the lives of their parents, it’s not a priority in the lives of their friends and extended family. They see their parents making a priority out of being successful in their career, to have a bigger house or a nicer car, they see them making golf, or fishing or hunting a priority in their lives. Kids are being driven to get a good education, to excel in sports, but if parents don’t take time to make the reading and study of God’s Word a priority then why would we expect our kids to make church a priority when they are not being “made to go”. Voddie Baucham, in his book, “Family Driven Faith” says “If I teach my son to keep his eye on the ball but fail to teach him to keep his eyes on Christ, I have failed as a father”
I know the impact that a father can have on a young person’s attitude about the church, and about God’s Word. I grew up in a church going home, but we were what I referred to as Sunday Christians. We were in church most every Sunday morning, but the other 6 ½ days a week you couldn’t tell us apart from the rest of the pagans in the neighborhood. I distinctly remember one Sunday Morning, that I think was a turning point for me. My Step-Dad was a musician, and was in a band he played saxophone and sang, now this was the early 70s and he was playing Bing Crosby, and Perry Como, and I was listening to Led Zeppelin and the Allman Brothers so there was very little common ground musically. But the Saturday night before this Sunday I remember he had played with his band at the Elks Club (or Moose or something like that) and apparently they must have been doing pretty good because somebody kept buying the band rounds of drinks and he got pretty drunk, so drunk that he came home and crawled straight in to bed. But Sunday morning and he woke up late and he started cussing out the alarm clock, because it didn’t get him up, of course he hadn’t set it the night before, but he was really upset because this was going to cause us to be late for church, and he had to get to the choir because he was supposed to sing a solo that morning. But my 14 year old mind saw it for what it was, but my 14 year old mind also said “what’s the point of all this church stuff. Why does everybody pretend to be someone different on Sunday morning from what they are the rest of the week. It was then that I waked away from the church, and was years later before ever came back to it.
I saw the hypocrisy in my step-dad and our kids will see hypocrisy in us, because every one of us in this room has been a hypocrite in the past, is a hypocrite now, or will be a hypocrite in the future. The important thing is how they see that we deal with it, either in a spirit of repentance, or a spirit of denial.
So what does it mean to Teach God’s commands “diligently to our children”? John Bunyan the author of Pilgrims Progress in an essay entitled Christian Family speaking of fathers says;
“First, concerning the spiritual state of his family; he ought to be very diligent and cautious, doing his utmost both to increase faith where it is begun, and to begin it where it is not. Therefore, he must diligently and frequently bring before his family the things of God, from His Holy Word, in accordance with what is suitable for each person. And let no man question his authority from the Word of God for such a practice.
So what are some things we can do? The most important thing you can do is start. Start by reading God’s Word out loud to your family. There are numerous Devotional books based on scripture for all age groups that can help you get started. Allow your children to ask biblical questions. This helps in a couple of ways, you may have to dig in to God’s Word yourself to find their answers, which is a good thing, and it also stirs their hearts toward God, and they see that it is important enough for you to answer. I if you really get stumped, then ask somebody yourself, but at all possible avoid the “That’s just the way it is” answers. Some other things you can do is let your family see you reading and studying Scripture, let them see you pray, pray with them, pray with your wife, study the Word with your wife. Now I know the big question is “Where am I going to find time to do all this”? Well we must make it a priority, maybe start with turning off the TV, Learning about the exodus has more value than learning who gets voted off the island, and What the apostle Paul has to say is much more important than what Bill O’Reilly has to say. It all comes down to what we consider a priority.
Now keep in mind I am not suggesting that we need to run off all the youth pastors, and shut down the children’s programs. They exist to help families and reinforce what we are teaching our children at home. We can’t expect our youth and children leadership in the church to be able to teach in a few hours a week everything our families need to overcome the bombardment that we all face the rest of the time. But don’t rely on professionals to exclusively to teach your family God’s Word.